argh.

My mom has this "habit"--She silently does what you're supposed to do, such as washing dishes or carrying laundry upstairs--and then after everything's done, she complains about how lazy you are and how inconsiderate you are to her. And then she self-pities, thinking how self-less, how hardworking, how great she is.

Give me a break?

So today it's my turn to wash dishes. I just finished lunch and I swear to god I planned to wash the dishes. but I decided to drink water first because that's what I always do, drink juice/water after dinner because the rice feels disgusting in my mouth. and I was watching TV while I was drinking water. So what happens is that all of a sudden my mom comes in with a whole tray of tea wares, and just started washing dishes. I mean, wth are you doing? If you want to wash those tea cups right now just tell me. I'll stop drinking water and start washing right away. but anyways I didn't do anything and continued to drink water while she's washing. I mean if you want to wash then wash. Just please don't think that you're doing me a favor or I'm being incredibly lazy.

But I KNEW THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT SHE'S THINKING. (also becuz during that time my brother comes in and asks why she's washing dishes and she said "nobody's washing them so I have to") So I confronted her after she finished washing. I told her "if it's my turn to wash the dishes then LET ME WASH IT. Don't do other people's job silently and then come back and complain that people aren't treating you so nicely. Just like how you always carry the laundry upstairs without asking anyone and then in the end start accusing people of being lazy and inconsiderate" but then she started saying oh "you're waiting too long you have to wash the dishes immediately after lunch and I can't stand people not washing dishes immediately" So I was like WTF, "it's my dishes, I just want to finish my water and then wash the dishes. If you have something urgent to do then just tell me and i'll start washing immediately" and then my mom goes "I'm sick and tired of chasing after you everytime and don't tell me you have to drink water or whatever, WASH THE DISHES IMMEDIATELY, I couldn't handle the fact you're not doing what I TRAINED you to do so I washed it myself. I didn't even say anything, and instead YOU are having problem with ME?"

so I got really mad and said "if you're so OCD about washing dishes immediately then that's your personal problem, don't vent your anger on me. It's your problem that you couldn't stand not washing dishes immediately (despite the fact that I often see dishes unwashed when it's their turn)."

and my mom says, "shut up."

and I shut up.